Hi 🙂
Today I was to ponder how work and play are defined in my world, using my journal. The lines are somewhat blurred in my life at the moment!
The more I acquaint myself with the updated neuroscience in Steve Biddulph’s Raising Boys, the more I realise this dynamic may not be changing much for the next 20 years or so 😉 Hopefully I’ll have two wonderfully healthy and well-adjusted young men toasting my 60th at the end of it, however…
Blue eyes and brown
They hate coming down
From their rooms to the sound of our beeper.
(It heralds goodbye)
On the landing they lie
One protesting, one feigning a ‘sleeper’.
With fake snoring aside,
And debates all been tried,
They succumb to inevitable hurry;
Twisted-heel socks put right,
Shoes with matched feet inside:
We grab coats, bags – then ‘cross paths we scurry.
On my way home to food
(Mind a little unglued)
I have Spotify feeding me soundbites;
They balloon in my brain
‘Til I don’t feel the same –
Potential now reaching for new heights.
Through the vacuuming gigs
And the laundry bin digs
There are YouTube, and Audible goodies.
(Or I’ll turn on the news
While some stitches accrue,
And I sample ‘craft-angst’ with my cookies…)
Back with youngest again
All the questions begin,
As I size up his mood and his morning.
As we mosey on home
I field requests (and moans)
Witness his schoolboy self ‘terraforming’.
We do lunchtime and then
Giant cuddles [for men
Need this most vital act in their childhood;
And, being a huggy type
As I am, it feels right
To attempt this – no matter our mood]
Then with one sleepy spud
‘Buggied up’, and our ‘crud’
All slung over the handles, we move it;
Down to Eldest at school
(Where we try not to duel
While I dole out the snacks, with good spirits)
After dinner, laundry –
An anecdote or three –
It is time for the playroom clean-up;
Daddy comes home and helps,
I claim time for myself
And do blog stuff o’er milky tea cup.
Homework done now, with dad,
It’s father-time for the lads
And this is where duff-ups ensue;
I emerge from my dreams,
As peace rips at the seams,
(Daddy needing a backup or two)
There are cuddles and tears
Talking-round of jeers,
Then those separate showers begin.
I hear stories anew
From each boy and we, too,
Speak about what tomorrow may bring.
Uniforms all laid out,
Suppered boys on the scout
For what tale they may now want to hear;
We cuddle and read,
Applaud every good deed,
Then it’s duvets tucked up to their ears!
Official adult time
Commences about nine,
But we might not have been fed just yet…
We navigate this
And settle to the biz
Of reclaiming creative outlets.
All too soon – call of bed
And that cold parent dread
That one child might scream out (around 3);
But still our eyes close –
“Que Sera…” we suppose –
For sure: as our tykes grow, here we’ll be.
Well, that turned out to be a little longer than originally anticipated!
It is nice to get our routine down on ‘paper’ like this, however, as it will all change in a few short months. I am trying to slow the passage of time down in my mind and really savour the boys. For all it will be liberating to have 6 hours’ worth of kid-free time, I know I will miss Youngest’s wee eager face telling me his insights around mouthfuls of buttered roll at lunch, anticipating what Eldest’s reactions will be to nursery scandals and deciding which games they’ll play after 4pm.
There are always a million things to be getting on with around here, and I have enough creative projects simmering in my head to keep me going until the kids are in their thirties (!) but it will still feel too quiet in the house by the second week of the Autumn term.
I hope Hubby keeps working from home at least two days from five, or I might have to start meditating in my silent surroundings and actually produce all those books I’ve always promised myself I’ll write one day…!
[I am currently journaling (and writing poems) around prompts from The Year Of You: 365 Journal Writing Prompts For Creative Self Discovery by Hannah Braime – Kindle ASIN: B076Z6Y5L9]
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May 15th, 2018 at 3:15 pm
I enjoyed having all this shared with me
May 17th, 2018 at 6:51 pm
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